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You know that feeling when you know you have to have a tough conversation? Like when your stomach is in knots and you just can’t stop thinking about what might end up in an argument? One of my clients came to workout with me recently and was feeling these exact things. Her husband had said something she didn’t appreciate, and she knew it had to be addressed.
Normally, this client is quite relaxed and bubbly, but I could tell something was wrong even before she said it. Once her story started coming out, I asked her if she wanted to prepare for this conversation by getting some of her energy out, that way she could approach her argument in a much calmer way. Seriously, she was so angry that when she was on her way to see me, she said that she was yelling in her car, almost acting out what she thought might happen in her real upcoming argument.
You’ve probably heard that when you’re angry you should punch a pillow right? Well, that is good advice and doing that can get you anger out before an argument, but it’s not easy to do when you’re in a situation that requires quiet… Like at work? It’s very hard to slip away and punch a pillow.
Or, maybe you’re fighting with your partner at home? If you’re mad about something and preparing for the conversation, sometimes it’s best to prepare in silence so you don’t let the other people at home know what’s coming. And let’s be honest, it’s much easier to get real emotions out if we are positive no one ones we are doing it. It’s not that you’re hiding, it’s that you’re letting your real and unbridled emotions out with nothing holding them back. Perfectly healthy!
So, on to what you can do instead of punching a pillow… Instead of that, just try punching the air. Even better, if you have a resistance band around, you can hold that with your hands and continue to punch. I promise, you’ll get your heart rate up and these pent up emotions out.
Another option, and my favorite method, and what my client liked too, was to stand in place and hike your knee up as high as you can, as if you were going to knee someone in the stomach. You can imagine whomever you’d like in this situation! Ha.
The next time I saw my client, I asked her how the conversation went. She told me that by getting these emotions out before her argument, she felt much calmer and ready to speak clearly about what was on her mind. She told me that her therapist even agreed and that what we did was a great idea.
Obviously, you won’t always know when fights are coming, but hopefully these movements can help you be prepared for whatever might come up!
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My name is Laura and I help overly tired 20something women overhaul their lives, energy and confidence without overwhelm.
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